Thursday, March 10, 2011

A Struggle & Pictures

After just returning from a short trip to Texas, one might think that I would be nice and relaxed and glad to be home. Well I'm not. Not at all. On top of our apartment not really feeling like 'home' at all, we have also had some unexpected things sprung on us. Not only do we have a lease that is about to expire, but we also have no idea where we are moving to next. So many things are up in the air (funny that I'm married to a pilot and it's exactly how our life feels at the moment... up in the air) that it's hard to know which thing to try and catch first. I feel like we might hesitate for a second too long and everything will fall down around us. So for now, it's hard to relax and enjoy this 'darned if you do, darned if you don't' situation that we are in at the moment.

I mean, at times I just wish that someone would come out of the woodwork and tell me that they understand exactly what we're going through, but we have yet to find any friends that are in the same (heck even a similar) boat as us. Honestly, one of my favorite things about reading other blogs is that I get to know the writers and can often relate to the things that they write about. It's fun 'getting to know' other bloggers, and it really is nice to know that you are not alone on certain aspects of life.

Seriously, though, is anyone out there in their 20s and super-mega in debt, do not own a house, are not even close to owning one, not sure where you will be living in a month, and kind of overwhelmed with life?! Or is it just me? Whew. Sometimes all I want is for someone to say it's going to be okay. Really, it can be that simple. A little comfort from people who care goes a long way. Thank goodness for the supportive and loving, even if it might be just a few, people that we have in our lives.

It can be really frustrating when you feel like your best is not good enough. Neither of us have necessarily had things handed to us through our lives, and we have always had to work for what we wanted. I am definitely a grateful person, and I cannot begin to explain everything that I am grateful for. However, lately it has been the very little things in life that make me smile, and I guess that's better than nothing at all. In the end I know that I need to be happy and grateful, but sometimes it's just so stinkin' hard!

With that being said,
here are a some things
that do make me smile.

* click on any of the following pictures, and they will link you to more happy *

All of the above images are mine, so if you use any of them please link back to my blog... thanks.

Find something that makes you smile today.

After thinking about loved ones and everything that makes me smile, I feel a bit better. Still have some things weighing me down, but I'll do my best to smile today anyways. Who is with me?!


  1. I'm with ya, Ash. Life can be overwhelming, that's for sure. And it doesn't get easier as you get older -in fact it can be tougher to get through those 'darned if you do, darned if you don't' times. But you two keep helping each other get through this stuff, and you'll be okay. "All You Need is Love" lalalalala :)

  2. It may be impossible to see now, but "everything is going to be okay" :)

  3. The scariest thing to do is have faith that everything will work out the way it's meant to be. You'll know it when it happens and the road may be rough, but oh so worth it.

    And I totally giggled at your pun before you explained it.

  4. I can't say that I am in your boat but I am about to marry a pilot and it's scary and overwhelming...and exciting. I know that it won't always be overwhelming and I trust that it will all work out some way or another. All you have to do is hang in there during these times because when you come out on the other side, it makes you not take any of it for granted!

  5. Aw, Ashley, I'm not in the exact same boat as you but I can definitely understand your frustration. We don't own a house yet, it's definitely not in our near future and I feel that I'm at a crossroads with my career which has me feeling overwhelmed! My husband and I aren't planning to start trying for a family until next year and I really want to be a stay-at-home mom but I'm not 100% sure that it will happen. So I'm at the crossroads as to where to take my career if staying home turns out to not be the best option for us. Sorry, that was a lot to read huh? Basically, I can sort of relate. Hope that helps. Feel better hun! :)

  6. Hey Ash, I am sort of in the same boat too. My husband just took a new job in Michigan (we currently live in Chicago) and he starts in two weeks. The thing is I have only been here with him for two months as I spent the last two years away from him in Canada. So now I have to repack everything up and move into an apartment for two months while we search for a new home or potentially build our own house. But we aren't sure what we can afford. Sigh. Plus I just started a business here and now I have to move that too. And I am in the process of getting my greencard. Sigh. I feel ya sista. Stay positive; it'll all work out!! XO

  7. um, ME! ME! I am in THE SAME BOAT!

    We are paying off our debt, do not own a home (not even close!) and never know where my husband's next job will be! Who knows where we will be living in May!!!

    Hang in there! But DO KNOW that you are not alone!!

    p.s. I just added you to my blogroll!

  8. Im in my 20's, super mega in debt, I don't own a house, I'm not even close to owning one, and I have no idea where I'll be living in a month, but Ill tell you what, Im excited to find out...and Im excited to move in. (I know Ill be still living in Hollywood, or close to it, I'm just not sure about where exactly.) It will be ok Ashley! Getting out of debt is done in baby steps. As long as you are working at it and not getting into more debt, things will be ok. Anyway, I read a book that has helped me a lot. It's called "Getting Things Done" The art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen. I know that I will never again be stressed out when things are "sprung" on me because of what I have learned in this book. If you want me to send it to you, I wouldn't mind a bit. Just facebook message me your current address. It has made a huge change to my life.

  9. Ohh Ashley! Sorry you're feeling so lost and unsure of where life will lead you :-( Hope things turned around today and this weekend! And YES! I'm in my 20's, have debt, and am unsure about life sometimes too. But try to keep the positive in perspective! Thinking of you :-)

    And PS-- I want that soup and sandwich tray so bad! ;-)

  10. Your post brought tears to my eyes - only because I'm with you. No our situations aren't the same, but at the end of the day - frustration with life is frustration with life, no matter how you spin it. I've been dancing with it for about a solid month and I keep hoping for the light at the end. And I think you are right, thats why this blogging "community" is so important... we can connect with others that we wouldn't otherwise. Here's me trying to have a little bit of hope for us both... that it will be ok. That the pieces will start to fall together. That at the end of the day all it takes is a deep breath and a little faith.

    Keep your head up girl.

  11. Life wouldn't be life if we had everything handed to us. We have to work a little and get some dirt under our fingernails to appreciate the things we do have. Brandon and I are right there with yall in the debt situation, and we don't own a house either (the search has kinda been postponed for time being), and we don't have everything figured out about life! We're all in this together.

    Breathe. Live life. Love your husband. And take one step at a time. Try not to stress :)
    Love you girl!