Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Out of Sync

I have to admit, that I am a huge fan of sticking to a schedule and having a routine. Being married to a pilot makes that challenging. My husband's scheduling throws a big old monkey wrench into my love for having plans or at least an idea of what might happen next. If anything though, I am getting better at going with the flow of things. However, it's not easy.

My husband and I on a little trip to Estes Park

Lately, it seems like our life has been a bit hectic and we have abandoned any semblance of a routine. Husband gets home after 9pm, and then we eat dinner. We get to sleep around 11pm maybe. Someone *coughAshleycough* likes to read in bed until maybe midnight (maybe 2am if I'm trying to finish a book). Husband gets up early for work, and we repeat. This has been a bit tiring. For both of us I'm afraid. This girl likes her dinner at 6pm sharp! Sort of like we're old folks here. Nothing wrong with older folks, but man do they seem to eat dinner early and stick to a tight schedule. I love it. Hopefully when my husband and I are old, we'll have a strict routine too. That would be so cool. Ha!

Not only have our schedules been somewhat turned upside down, but our apartment is in minor disarray too (I say minor because I'm too anal obsessive compulsive to let it get much further than that). Our lease is up soon, and we actually have no plans as of now for where we are moving to next. Great. We are doing this the fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants way I guess. Nothing like waiting until the last minute. It makes things more exciting I suppose. For now, I believe that things are just accumulating around our place in anticipation of being packed away and moved again.

If there's such a thing as a neat mess...
I think it's this.

Seriously though, sometimes being married to a pilot has its perks. It also has its downsides too. Our 'social life' is pretty lame, because we don't have a lot of extra money to spend on fun stuff. We have pretty major combined student loan debt. On top of that, Nate gets his schedule for the following month in the middle of each month. That makes scheduling things difficult, because he has to know pretty far in advance what days off he needs. If something important is coming up, we usually need to know at least 40 days in advance! Even advance notice is not always enough, because he sometimes gets called in to work at the last minute's notice. Though since he has been working in the training department, that doesn't happen as often as it used to for us. His schedule varies month to month too. He doesn't just get weekends off like a lot of people with careers do. That was serious torture for us when I was working every week day. At least it was for me, because I would have a weekend off and he would be working. Thank goodness that has changed. We do enjoy free/cheap tickets to fly places, but we rarely take advantage of it. Being married to a pilot has its ups and downs. That is life.

I really need to work on being okay with...
having plans that are up in the air.

I hope we somehow get back to our 'irregular routine' here soon. Things have been a little more hectic and disorganized than I like them. Plan for no plans. Right now that's our life.


  1. Life is too short to worry about a pile of laundry. At least that's what I tell myself! I know a messy house makes me anxious too.

    Enjoy the freedom and continue making the most of our your time together.

  2. Being out of routine is very difficult. My fiancee is working bascially the opposite schedual of me right now so things are all over the place. I will be optimistic and say that it will get better for both of us!

  3. I am the same way when it comes to my routine! I mean, the simple time change last week threw me off for the entire week! I am a neat freak, and everything has its place, along with a very detailed schedule of all the things I do daily - freak much!?

    Haha but I know what you mean - when your routine is thrown off, it can be such an odd feeling!

  4. I absolutely understand the need of having a routine... and when it gets thrown off can be very challenging. But I look at it as God's little tests when things become off kilter... You have to look outside your norm and figure out what else works!

    Great post today girl. Have a good day!



  5. I love schedules too! I like knowing what to expect, and I have always been a girl who loves routine. I hope you figure out something that works for the both of you!

  6. Having no plans can be very frustrating! I feel ya sista, but (and I've got a post about this coming soon) living in the moment can be fun too. It's the spontaneity that is/can be thrilling, and the unexpectedness of how things will turn out. Your life is amazing!! Embrace it :)

  7. I completely understand. I can imagine that this is difficult sometimes. I'm a little bit of a weirdo, I like to have a schedule to some extent but I don't always like to stick to it! Lol! I just like knowing that there is one. My husband on the other hand has a set schedule for everything! And he HAS to follow it! He funtions best when there's structure. I'm convinced that he sees everything as a chart! lol

  8. First off, LOVE the photo of you guys in Estes!! (one of my FAVE vacay spots :-)) And secondly, try to see the good side-- you're learning some pretty awesome skills, being able to adapt and go with the flow. I too like to have order and mentally freak out and feel "OFF" when things go not as planned. It will all work out!!

  9. I know how you feel, we are moving next month and we have no idea where exactly that is going to be. At least my husband has a set work schedule once he gets to a job, so I don't have to deal with no seeing him very much or not getting weekends with him.
    HANG IN THERE! I am sure things will start looking up! They always do...

  10. I tried like crazy to have a routine especially for our son after he was born. Well he is almost four and the routine bit is still very illusive. I am much like you where I like organization however I have learned that sometimes my expectations are unrealistic. For example we had a stomach virus more specifically the little guy had it the worse lots of vomiting fun. So after half a day of killing myself to keep a nice house for my husbands 2.5 day break he pulled me down on his lap and said "I would really much rather spend time with you than have a clean house" Result it looks like a bomb blew up because there is clean laundry everywhere and toys and dishes, husband headed out and I am just to tired to give a damn. So I remind myself once again that it is about enjoying life not having a clean planed one.