Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Goodbye Facebook

My husband did the unthinkable a few days ago! After getting home from work, he told me that he'd done something very shocking. I thought to myself "you cleaned the toilet?!" Unfortunately, that wasn't the shock he had in mind, but he did tell me that he had deleted his Facebook account! Shocking, huh? It seems that everyone has a Facebook account these days. People look at you funny if you say that you don't have a Facebook account. I believe that telling someone you have no Facebook account is like telling someone that you have no butt hole. Seriously. People are shocked by it, and it's become one of those things that everyone has.

It's as if Facebook has become a necessity in our daily lives. Needless to say, I'm proud of my husband for actually going through with deleting his account. There have been multiple times where I find myself weighing the pros and cons of having a Facebook account, and I'm not sure that the pros outweigh the cons. Whenever I find something to be disadvantageous, I typically get a little thrill over being strong enough to cut it out of my life for good. Just because something has become a necessity does not mean that it's always good. Commuting to work is a necessity, but it takes away valuable time out of our day that could be spent with loved ones instead. That doesn't necessarily make commuting good. Just a necessity. If I could kick commuting to the curb I would, but it doesn't always work that way. I really don't like how Facebook has become sort of like commuting for me. It's that pain in the butt thing you do each day, but you really wish you didn't have to do it. I don't think that Facebook should be a necessity in our daily lives. People survived just fine before Facebook came along. Is it really making our lives better?

Since my husband deleted his facebook account
we have more time to do real people things...
you know...
take cheesy pictures of ourselves in museum windows.

Unfortunately, for whatever reason, I keep Facebook hanging around like that annoying little cursing habit. I've begun to think of this pesky social network, that everyone loves, as more of a nuisance than anything. It no longer seems to be a way of connecting people. It hasn't been for a while now. Almost ten years ago, my college was one of the lucky, or unlucky depending how you look at it, few colleges that first had access to Facebook. It was like the cute, new shy kid at school that everyone was all excited about and wanted to know more about the mystery behind it. Over the years though, the new kid starts hanging with the "cool" group of kids at school and begins to lose its identity. Over the years, that shy new kid turned into the obnoxious and overconfident high school-er who thinks they're cooler than school itself. Suddenly that cute "new" kid isn't so shiny, new, and attractive anymore. For me, Facebook has lost its appeal after morphing through the years.

I hope I didn't lose you among all of my Facebook comparisons. Basically, all that I'm trying to say is that Facebook has lost its appeal for me, and I contemplate cutting it out of my life on a pretty regular basis. My husband is someone who actually went through with deleting his Facebook account, because I think he's secretly hoping that talking on the phone will become "cool" again. (I kid... sort of.) Let's hope that pagers never make a comeback though, because I think those were cheesy as heck. Either way, I would love to hear about your take on Facebook. Are you over it? Has it become too big for its britches?


  1. Love this post. And I could not agree more with it. I recently went a week without logging into Facebook. I'm bored with it too, and contemplate deleting it often, but at the same time - it's a boredom outlet. But at the SAME time ... it's a waste of time, to be honest. It's time that could be spent studying, or spending quality time with a loved one. Through out the week where I didn't log in ... I wasn't even tempted. And when I finally logged back in, I didn't even really care, wasn't excited or anything. So since then, I've been SERIOUSLY contemplating deleting it. Especially considering it has become the same ole' status updates on a daily. 'time for bed, goodnight world' ... 'going to the mall, time for some shopping', etc ... who really cares?! We are not obligated to check into anyone. Especially people that have added us because we ... maybe shared a class together in middle school but never really talked to one another.

    The main reason I keep it, is for family and close friends. But then again, my close family and friends have my blog link and get REAL updates, in further detail.

    Your husband's willingness to delete his account, and your willingness to write about it, lol, has kinda gave me that last push I needed to just do it already - so thanks ;)

    Have a good day.

  2. I am so with you. I think about deleting facebook on a daily basis but then I think about the people I would lose touch with. It's unfortunate, but nothing else is as convenient. I just think there is more bad about facebook than good.

  3. great post! i have an account but rarely go on there. but i do find that it's a great way to maintain contact with family and friends that are far away from you especially when you don't want to talk on the phone...it's a bit less personal but it gets the work done most times. this is the good of facebook for me. there's also the bad which i think is time comsuming because it can be for some people...but so is blogging..im guilty!

  4. I still love my Facebook. It helps me keep in touch with my far-away-friends. We still call and write but sometimes its just nice to get a little glimpse into their daily life. My pilot however does not have a FB page. :)

  5. I totally agree, and have considered it myself. I only keep it to keep in contact with those who I otherwise wouldn't and for those who don't read my blog. haha!

  6. I have deleted it in the past. It honestly became a terror and a source of WAY too much drama in the past. I got so sick of it, and what it had become, I just deleted the thing and said to hell with it.

    I now have one that is super private (fake name and all!!) with just my close family and a few friends. (under 50) I would love to completely delete it, forcing people to either call or email, but with family all over the US, Canada and Europe, its hard to.

  7. I guess I really have nothing against facebook... i mainly only use it as a way to easily share pictures with people and just for fun. I guess it does cause a lot of people drama though, but then again I think a lot of people take it waaaayyy too seriously (not saying you, I' just know some people who do)

  8. I guess I really have nothing against facebook... i mainly only use it as a way to easily share pictures with people and just for fun. I guess it does cause a lot of people drama though, but then again I think a lot of people take it waaaayyy too seriously (not saying you, I' just know some people who do)

  9. HE DID WHAT!!!??? GASP! If it weren't for the cupcake biz I would not have a fb account. It seriously drains me. I spend so much time on it. Time that I could be doing something else. I try to be technology free on the weekends...ugh. That is so awesome of your hubs. It's so freeing.

  10. I actually deleted over 300 friends recently and Facebook has been a million times better since then!! I deleted all the people that I'm not really friends with, but that I just know casually.

  11. i ALWAYS contemplate it too. i totally get what you are saying. i've taken it off my cell phone...and that is a start.